恋爱是我们VS问题 不是你VS我

·在··人··生··的··旅··途··中··，··沟··通··真··的··扮··演··着··重··要··的··角··色··。··无··论··是··与··亲··人··、··朋··友··还··是··爱··人··，··只··有··通··过··真··诚··的··沟··通··，··我··们··才··能··够··建··立··起··深··入··的··情··感··联··系··。··就··像··一··座··牢··固··的··桥··梁··，··沟··通··可··以··使··我··们··更··加··了··解··对··方··，··达··成··共··识··，··促··进··互··相··成··长··。·· ··

··我··想··起··了··一··句··古··话··，··虽··然··平··淡··却··言··简··意··赅··：··水··能··载··舟··，··亦··能··覆··舟··。··如··果··我··们··对··沟··通··视··而··不··见··，··那··么··我··们··可··能··会··错··过··和··亲··人··心··灵··的··交··流··。··遗··憾··的··是··，··很··多··人··在··一··段··感··情··里··并··非··因··为··爱··的··不··够··，··而··是··因··为··从··未··下··心··去··真··正··了··解··对··方··。··他··们··在··旋··风··般··的··矛··盾··中··，··追··逐··着··胜··负··的··欲··望··，··忘··记··了··当··初··拥··有··的··最··初··的··心··意··。·· ··

··吵··架··，··对··许··多··人··而··言··，··往··往··是··情··感··摩··擦··的··必··然··结··果··。··然··而··，··吵··架··不··是··为··了··显··示··谁··对··谁··错··，··而··是··为··了··寻··求··更··美··好··的··相··处··方··式··。··当··我··们··用··心··倾··听··对··方··表··达··内··心··的··时··候··，··我··们··正··在··寻··求··解··决··问··题··的··办··法··，··而··非··冷··漠··地··将··对··方··遗··忘··。·· ··

··好··的··沟··通··就··像··是··一··道··滋··养··牙··龈··的··口··腔··清··洁··剂··，··可··以··清··除··误··解··，··消··除··紧··张··，··让··心··灵··更··加··纯··净··。··而··坏··的··沟··通··则··是··如··同··一··颗··腐··朽··的··牙··，··每··一··次··言··语··都··带··着··伤··害··和··恶··意··，··毒··害··着··我··们··的··感··情··。··因··此··，··我··们··必··须··铭··记··，··真··正··的··爱··并··不··是··用··沉··默··去··制··裁··对··方··，··而··是··彼··此··倾··听··，··真··诚··地··沟··通··。··

·· ··人··长··了··嘴··就··是··为··了··说··清··误··会··，··生··了··耳··就··是··为··了··聆··听··旁··人··的··辩··解··。··无··论··遇··到··何··种··情··绪··上··的··问··题··，··我··们··都··应··该··勇··于··坦··然··相··对··。··因··为··沟··通··是··解··决··矛··盾··最··为··直··接··的··方··式··。··我··们··应··该··珍··惜··那··个··愿··意··与··我··们··长··篇··大··论··、··促··膝··长··谈··的··人··，··因··为··每··一··次··与··你··沟··通··，··他··都··是··希··望··告··诉··你··：··“··我··愿··意··为··你··付··出··一··切。··”···